The Road Not Taken

Today afforded me a surreal and unexpected appreciation and altogether different interpretation of one of my favorite poems, The Road Not Taken, by Robert Frost.  Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could To where it bent in […]

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The Time Warp

Everyone who finds themselves assigned to the Infertility Home Room dreams of the day they’ll graduate. News of our assignment turns our worlds upside down. The ignominy hits us hard. We wonder about the mysterious cause that led to our being singled out and worry about how it will affect our plans for the future. Once we get over the […]

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Sitting Down in Support

Are you sitting down? Good. Because you’ll really like this story (and the act of sitting is a symbolic one). When we arrived for dinner yesterday with our friends, the hostess had a news clipping waiting for me. She said, “You won’t believe this. Remember that story you’ve told about Mother’s Day mass? Well, read this Dear Abby column.” Dear […]

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Field Research: In Search of The Non-Moms


We all define ourselves differently. Some of us become one with our occupations: doctor, lawyer, teacher or artist. Others define themselves by age, religion, location or political persuasion. Still others by relationships.  Whether intentional or not, each label gets a value assigned to it.  Try these identities on for size: You’re a young New Yorker social worker who’s also a […]

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Deciding When Enough is Enough with IVF

There are generally three categories of couples in the infertility world: those considering treatment; those actively engaged in treatment; and those who grudgingly realize that they’ve reached the end of the road and cease IVF treatment altogether in order to pursue a different path. Each comes with its own unique emotional gymnastics. Deciding when to end IVF intervention is one […]

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