Aha! The Origins of “Just Relax”

You may recall me mentioning a book called Infertility Around the Globe: New Thinking on Childlessness, Gender and Reproductive Technologies. While it’s not exactly light reading (though academic tomes rarely are), it contains some intriguing research and ideas — some true gems. In particular, I believe I’ve stumbled across a rosetta stone of sorts — can I get a drum […]

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What Bristol Palin And I Have in Common

An anvil dropping on my head — that approximates the combined effect of a Salon article about Bristol Palin’s suprisingly blunt assessment of unintended motherhood magnified by the equally thought-provoking comments readers left on my last blog post suggesting we set aside feminism as the catch-all scapegoat for infertility. How could I ever put those two ideas together you wonder? […]

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Can We Find Another Scapegoat?

I think it’s high times we found a new catch-all scapegoat for infertility. I’m getting seriously bored with the now specious “feminisim killed my chance at motherhood” argument. Knowledge about the ticking female biological clock has been around since the late 80s, and more recently men have been warned of similar age-related biological impediments to fatherhood. Hard to claim ignorance […]

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MABI – The Opposite of Momzilla

Women who become Mothers After Battling Infertility (MABIs) intrigue me. While I have not a clue what it’s like to walk in their shoes, they’re the closest proxy to what I might have been like as a mother. They’re a different breed. The hardship and emotional scars more often than not make them the polar opposite of the dreaded Momzilla. […]

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