Tough Talk: Living Without Children After Infertility
Infertile folk will never quite measure up on the yardstick of life used by “fertile” folk — what with such things as pregnancies, baby firsts, kid kibbitzing, and parental back slaps among the many markings. So what’s an infertile to do? Get a new measurement system!
That’s only one of the “ah has” I’ve learned in reconciling infertility. It’s also just one of the many discussion topics you’ll hear in the radio segment: “Deciding to Live Involuntarily Childfree” (Note to the childfree by choice tribe: I know you get downright hot under the collar when infertiles co-opt your childfree label, but I didn’t name the segment).
Get comfy. Grab a cup of coffee or better yet, a glass of wine — chances are pretty good if you’re reading my blog you won’t be supervising homework tonight! Addressed in the hour-long segment: When should you stop infertility treatment. At what point do you decide to simply stop trying for the miracle? What are the life long ramifications with making the decision to live childfree?
Joining me on the show, hosted by Dawn Davenport of Creating a Family.org, was Stephanie Baffone, a therapist who made the decision to live child free after years in infertility treatment and has counseled with many others facing this decision.