Have a Story to Tell? #UnmaskingIVF

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Spread the loveOne story will forever mark a turning point for me: Facing Life With Children When It Isn’t By Choice. Since it ran June 10, 2008 that June date now has special significance, too. It’s the day I crossed over from a blogger writing under a pseudonym to my reveal on The New York Times homepage (yeah, I know, […]

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An Unexpected Life

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Spread the loveSomething remarkable happened last Friday. During a deeply personal conversation revolving around making sense of infertility losses — and other equally light topics (NOT!) — I didn’t shed a tear. This was a first. There are restaurants all over the Bay area where I’ve left mangled tear-stained napkins. This time I not only held it together, I was […]

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Womanly In More Ways Than One

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Spread the loveFYI: I’m updating this post with a poll since the Newsweek story (mentioned below) has had me wondering what you (infertile and fertile alike) really think. Since anonymous polls net more participation, here’s your chance to weigh in. Don’t be shy! If you were diagnosed infertile, would it affect your sense of womanliness? ( surveys)****** Survived my first […]

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Getting Comfortable in My Barren Skin

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Spread the loveExercise-induced endorphins aside I think it’s safe to say that I’m getting much more comfortable in my barren skin, glowing now thanks to the Lifecyle 9100 recumbent bike. I’ve had more than a few “infertility impact tests” the past few weeks on days when I didn’t exercise and yet I still managed a passing grade. One of the […]

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Looking Back At How I Got Here

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Spread the love15-44. That’s a category I just left in the dust. Normally I don’t pay much attention to age-related categories but this is a biggie. It’s the standard measure of child-bearing age. The U.S. Census bureau uses it. The National Center for Health Statistics uses it. The government of Scotland, for Pete’s sake, uses it. And I’m now outside […]

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Infertility Quiz Time

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Spread the loveInfertility is an intensely personal experience but the more I’ve learned about its reach the more surprised I am by how little mainstream visibility the condition actually receives. There are a host of health issues that get significantly more air time relative to the number of people affected. To underscore this point (and this is not in any […]

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Overcoming Stress: First Acknowledge It, Then Paddle Your Own Canoe

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Spread the loveTrying to fully understand the emotional dimensions of infertility has become something of a hobby of mine. Some people cook, knit or exercise in their spare time. Me? I’m a research hound. I’ve warned readers in the past that I’m a bit of a study junkie. Consuming reports is my way of trying to make sense of the […]

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How Long Do I Have to Grin and Bear It?

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Spread the loveWe’ve given each other some hard lessons lately But we ain’t learnin’ We’re the same sad story that’s a fact One step up and two steps back Those of you Bruce Springsteen fans will remember his haunting melody and lyrics.  That’s the song that started playing through my head during a random encounter Sunday. It was a beautiful, […]

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Promises, Promises

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Spread the loveHardly a week goes by when there isn’t some new study talking about a promising new fertility discovery or nefarious contributor to infertility. Take this study not long ago about the 350 genes involved in female fertility or this perplexing news about the impact of soy on sperm. It wasn’t long ago that I devoured those stories. I […]

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