Have a Story to Tell? #UnmaskingIVF

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Spread the loveOne story will forever mark a turning point for me: Facing Life With Children When It Isn’t By Choice. Since it ran June 10, 2008 that June date now has special significance, too. It’s the day I crossed over from a blogger writing under a pseudonym to my reveal on The New York Times homepage (yeah, I know, […]

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There’s More Than One Infertility Outcome

Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos
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Spread the loveUpdate: As evidence of a sea change in how infertility is portrayed, Yahoo Shine featured on its homepage a story about “the growing women’s movement to de-stigmatize infertility.” It came in the wake of the latest edition of Our Bodies, Ourselves (which includes an expanded section on not just the physical but the emotional aspects of infertility) and Redbook’s Truth About Trying campaign, referenced below. […]

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A Conversation Starter for Moms and Dads*

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Spread the love*Who have never stepped foot in a doctor’s office to discuss why they are having trouble conceiving It’s not easy to explain why the question, “do you have children?,” can cut like a knife.  With that in mind, I wrote a guest column,  Infertility: Amid the Silent Sorority. It first ran on a site called CurrentMom. Perhaps this […]

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Going Up!

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An an infertile (that’s right, all you “as a moms,” … we infertiles can invoke superiority, too!), I’m happy to report that there’s finally a movie coming to theater near you that contains
a story line that portrays infertiles as endearing, not selfish … sweet, not reviled or pitied.

Time magazine says the movie, Up, will
prove to be one of the most satisfying movie experiences of the year. Hallelujah! It’s about freakin‘ time. Hollywood has some serious making up to do for consistently negative story lines
about my people. Time‘s Richard Corliss writes:

“Spanning two continents and seven decades, Up begins in a 1930s movie theater. A newsreel tells us that famous explorer Charles Muntz (voiced by Christopher Plummer) is just back
from South America’s remote Paradise Falls with the bones of a prehistoric bird. Denounced as a fraud by archaeologists, Muntz vows to retrieve a member of the species and bring it back alive. In the
audience, wearing aviator goggles atop his thick-rimmed specs, is young Carl Fredricksen, who is enthralled by Muntz’s motto, ‘There’s adventure out there!’

“On the way home, Carl finds a kindred spirit: a girl named Ellie, as vivacious as he is stolid, who harbors the same dream of visiting Paradise Falls. It’s love at first sight, and in a
tender montage, Up shows us their life together: the wedding, the fixing up of their home, the quiet walks, their respective jobs at the local zoo (she tending the animals, he selling
balloons), their eager preparations for a child they later learn they can’t have, their need to defer the big trip to pay for home improvements, then her slowing pace and death. This series of
vignettes is played without dialogue and underscored by Michael Giacchino’s wistful waltz. It’s the sweetest, saddest 4 1⁄2 minutes you’ll ever see on film.”

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Aha! The Origins of “Just Relax”

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Spread the loveYou may recall me mentioning a book called Infertility Around the Globe: New Thinking on Childlessness, Gender and Reproductive Technologies. While it’s not exactly light reading (though academic tomes rarely are), it contains some intriguing research and ideas — some true gems. In particular, I believe I’ve stumbled across a rosetta stone of sorts — can I get […]

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Dreamer or Masochist? You Decide

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Spread the loveThe calendar doesn’t lie. It’s my two year blogoversary. A pomegranate-infused martini or other adult beverage anyone? I’m pouring. So…hundreds of posts, a book manuscript, a BlogHer panel, a New York Times feature article and thousands of your comments later, I ask: am I a dreamer or a masochist ? Why? The subject of Coming2Terms has hardly been […]

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At What Cost?

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Spread the loveUpdated Friday a.m. I’m troubled. Sickened, actually. When did drugs/treatment intended for infertility become recreational options for people with children? This story gets weirder by the minute. You’ll find a great discussion taking place in the comments section… * * * * * Down south in Los Angeles, a team of doctors were involved in the headline grabbing […]

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Calling All Warriors

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Spread the lovewar·ri·or Pronunciation:ˈwȯr-yər, ˈwȯr-ē-ər, ˈwär-ē- also ˈwär-yər n. 1. One who is engaged in or experienced in battle. 2. One who is engaged aggressively or energetically in an activity, cause, or conflict You know who you are! You’ve been enmeshed in the infertility battle duking it out body and soul. Or, unlike the woman I wrote about in my […]

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