Okay, this post is sure to rattle some, but look you’ve left me no choice. I coined the term “Momzilla” over the holidays when I was trapped in a hair salon next to two women who could not shut up about the wonders of pregnancy and motherhood. There I was less than a foot away draped in a poncho with my hair soaking wet, half of it held back by a clip and a woman standing behind me holding sharp shears. It was a good thing my hair stylist had a good grip on those shears because I fantasized about sticking sharp objects in the eyes of the two Momzillas.
I accept that mommy talk happens, a lot! I usually just sigh and suck it up. This incident, though, was far from normal hair salon chit chat between a bubbly pregnant hair stylist and her super happy mommy client, Willow (I do live in California so the silly name is to be expected). It was the loudest, most obnoxious, in-your-face “where were you when your water broke?” conversation I’ve ever witnessed.
At first I thought they were joking around — putting the rest of us on with their over the top, “what about the first time the baby kicked?,” “what about the first time you breast fed?,” “what about the cravings?” “the glow…”. Then it got so bad I had to wonder what I had done to get the universe so intent on torturing me. Even my own stylist, normally unflappable, caught my eye is the mirror and said quietly, “enough already, huh?”
I share this story because as I continue to read across the various infertility blogs and see the veritable gloating going on among those who managed to achieve two pink lines following a tough battle against infertility I’m reminded of the old adage converts make the worst zealots. We are happy for you, truly, and the pregnancies you’ve worked so hard to achieve, but do keep in mind that there are those out there who 1) still struggle mightily 2) may never get there or 3) may have timed out permanently.
You may have departed one sisterhood for another, but don’t abandon those who have supported you. Guard against becoming the dreaded momzilla.