This daughter thanks you all for your birthday greetings and wishes.
It was an emotionally charged day but not for the reasons you might expect. My mother was admitted to the hospital earlier this week for a sudden life-threatening condition. Fortunately the medical staff moved quickly and smartly to treat her and she’s now recovering. In the hours following the episode we swapped roles and I exercised some nascent mothering skills.
While I’ve been maternal toward little ones that belong to others, this has been an opportunity to see in depth what it must be like to be a parent. I’ve been sitting bedside during doctor consultations, looking to make sure my mother’s needs are met by the kindly nursing staff, and fussing over my father to see that he takes his own medications on time and rests properly.
It’s enormously satisfying to be in a position to help even if it’s just to be on hand to provide a smile and fluff a pillow, or to make a hot meal and provide some company for my worrying father. I owe them much for all they’ve done on my behalf over the years.
My mothering skills are a bit clumsy but I recognize the appreciation on my parent’s faces. It’s the same look I used to give them when I was scared or unwell and they were there to nurture, reassure or care for me, their once lost daughter.
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Now I’d like to highlight some of the posts that caused me to think this week during quiet time in a Detroit area hospital that curiously offers free Internet access. Carlynn has a poignant post that describes the indescribable loss we’ve all felt at some point in our pregnancy quests. Aunt Sassy shares what she’s learned and how she’s changed since starting IVF treatments. Ellen highlights how women through the years have struggled through loss, and finally Bea talks about how infertility and pregnancy loss impacts friendships. I’ve got lots more blog reading to catch up on. Thanks for keeping me company.