Now this may be hard to believe after reading my posts, but I don’t actually think about infertility 24×7. While infertility has significantly shaped the course of my life and how I relate to people, I try very hard not to let it get the upper hand or to define me entirely.
This blog is an efficient way to organize my thinking on the subject, to raise awareness about the lasting emotional aspects of infertility and to tackle infertility myths and misinformation. I could just as easily create blog entries on politics, travel, college football, favorite reads, etc.
So with that caveat, I’m going about the normal course of business in the office today — and not thinking about being infertile or anything related to infertility — when this email lands in my inbox in response to a project-specific email I sent out last week.
Seeing your email come through the other day made me realize it has been quite a while since I dropped you a line. How are you? I hope you enjoyed your summer – it is hard to believe that it’s coming to a close already.
I’ve been keeping busy on the work end, but managed to find plenty of time for fun in the sun with my family. We had a gorgeous summer and John (he’s nearly three) has learned to swim, hit a golf ball and play baseball. Also, we’re expecting twins near the holidays – a boy and a girl, so we’ve been trying to get prepared for that major addition to the household! Hope all is well with you. Best, (Name Deleted)
Honestly I’m stumped here.
As you know I’m committed to removing the stigma associated with infertility and to educating people about how hard it is to cope with notes and conversations just like this after losses from IVF and years of trying unsuccessfully to conceive. Here’s where I’d like your help. Everyone is invited to weigh in — infertiles, fertiles, regular readers and those dropping by the first time. I’ll be setting up an anonymous polling widget in my sidebar to capture opinions — again this is anonymous so the bashful types can have at it. Should I politely let her know I spent some of my summer spare time contributing to my blog Coming2Terms — Living with Infertility in a Fertile World — and writing a book on the same subject?
These types of opportunities present themselves more often than you might think. I’m fully aware that we all face losses in our life, but I don’t know anyone who has ever “gotten over” the loss of children. For those who do want to comment as well, I’m all ears.