In keeping with the spirit of National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW) and those making a difference, I want to extend a few shout outs:
To Ellen, the mother of a 10-month-old, who made a point of posting about the best way to help infertile couples after reading about the NIAW on my blog. She’s earned an Act of Kindness Award with these words directed at her readers:
“Those of us who’ve experienced infertility know that we will NEVER
forget the pain and struggle that we experienced. The challenge now for
me is to make sure that those that I know who are dealing with
infertility know that they will always receive compassion and a
listening ear from me. Sadly, when I was dealing with infertility, I
came across some women who didn’t seem to remember the dark valley that
they’d walked through. Their comments were hurtful, and I remember that
I resolved then and there, during those encounters, that if God ever
gave me a child, I would always do my best to be there with others in
their dark moments.” Thank you, Ellen. You’re a terrific role model…
To Mr. PJ, who has every right to grumble loudly about losing his breakfast companion, but he doesn’t. You see, since I discovered this vibrant and very compelling infertility blogging community, our days of swapping commentary over cups of freshed brewed coffee and newspapers has become a distant memory. I’m now too engrossed with my laptop busily reading and commenting on your blogs. Again, to his credit, he encourages me to read aloud from your posts when he finds me busting out in laughter or wiping away tears.
And to my physical world pals (Susan F., Jane, Gail, Julie, Tris, Carol, Barb, Susan M). You’ve been more than kind in helping me along. I need to make a point of not neglecting you. In the future, I’ll do my best to “step away from the computer.”
Finally … to all you loyal readers and commentors (is that even a word?) You’ve brightened my world …
November 8, 2007 3:12 am
But how did you get my husband’s view of me??
You brighten my world too, Pamela Jeanne :-).
November 8, 2007 4:32 am
Yes, do step away from the computer from time to time! I think it’s only healthy.
November 8, 2007 2:04 pm
Thanks! I just hope I can be of some help to someone. If you know intimately what it feels like to feel broken and hopeless, you need to take that knowledge and compassion and use it for good and for God. I always wondered exactly what it would take to bring resolution and peace for me if I didn’t have a baby. Thinking about that was so hard. I just didn’t want to hurt anymore. I’ll be praying for you. I know how it feels.
November 8, 2007 5:06 pm
Ellen, your post cannot be more timely. Lately, I’ve been surprised at the insensitivity of some “previously infertile” women who insist on sharing their happy news with everyone sitting in the infertility clinic waiting room. It’s not that on some level we don’t feel happy for them, but they should understand that only 30% or so of us will go on to experience that kind of victory. It’s crazy when you can’t even get empathy from those who SHOULD understand!
November 8, 2007 5:44 pm
Thanks for all the joy you bring us, PJ–and I do feel sorry for Mr. PJ as it would be terrible to lose your posts/support to silly things such as breakfast 😉
November 8, 2007 5:55 pm
Step away from the computer??? Nooooo!
November 8, 2007 10:57 pm
If I hadn’t found this online community I may have come unhinged by now (even so, it’s debatable I guess!)
Glad to know you but also sorry any of us are here at all if you know what I mean.