While the vast majority of queries are straightforward or simply look for clarification, others are downright philosophical or probing.
For the searchee (me) reviewing the phrases or questions that bring people to my site is not only informative but revealing. I’m accustomed to seeing the obvious: “coming to terms with not conceiving” or “coming to terms with childlessness” or even “coping in a fertile world.”
Then there are queries that give me pause. These are the latest ones that jumped off the page:
“Why doesn’t society help infertiles?”
“which is worse, cancer or infertility”
“what I wish fertiles knew about infertility”
“how to keep living after infertility”
Stark. Penetrating. Anguished. Collectively they raise a much larger set of questions. Even after more than a dozen years living with infertility I can’t help but be reminded, again, how deeply the condition cuts, how it forces those of us confronting it to reassess the very things we once took for granted.
Not exactly easy questions, are they? I know there’s great wisdom among my readers, which is why — while I reflect on how I might answer them — I welcome your insights.