There are good surprises and not-so-good surprises delivered through email.
The good surprises arrive like little gifts dropping in via Google alerts. Ping. Someone has written nice things about my blog. What they say makes me positively blush. I’m unaccustomed to such high praise.
In recent days there are a few alerts that stand out — revealing full blown posts that offer additional insights about my peeps, those living the infertility experience. For more on recent reactions to The New York Times profile, I give you the following:
Why Attack Instead of Seek to Understand by Tricia at Shout Daily.
Jackass by Deathstar at A Woman My Age
Now about those emails that fall into the not-so-good surprises category. In the past 24 hours two birth-related announcements, sent via the workplace email alias, landed — not with a ping but a KABOOM — in my work inbox. My first instinct was to reply to all with the subject heading: STILL NOT PREGNANT and include some details about my latest endometriosis-induced cramps.
Thinking better of that idea and emboldened by your recent comments and recommendations about showing some sensitivity to others by curbing mass emails containing birth announcements, I finally strolled over to talk to my colleague responsible for HR. I say “finally” because in the eight years that I’ve been a part of this office and trying to conceive no less than 25 babies have been born to those around me Monday through Friday — the vast majority, in fact, all if I remember correctly ’cause it’s hard to forget the sucker punches that accompanied them — came announced via email. That number becomes all the more eye-popping when you learn that there are just under 40 people in my workplace. Yes, there’s been a veritable baby boom taking place.
In the nicest way that I could, I pointed my colleague to the recent NYT article and explained that as hard as I’ve tried to come to terms with my situation and much as I try not to dwell on my infertility, there are moments at work when I’m caught off guard, as in birth announcements arriving while I’m in the midst of a work project. Distracting in a not-so-good way? Yes. They remind me of my negative pregnancy (BFN) betas during our IVFs. Do the chirpy announcements (quite a few of which included pics of glowing, proud parents) undermine my productivity while I try to regain my composure? Yes.
So, can I please recommend that a new email alias be formed for personal announcements — with my email NOT included? Can I enlist his help in asking that we reserve the general work alias for work-related announcements. If I’d like to get an update on so and so’s new pregnancy or baby — and I will when I’m in the right frame of mind — I’d like to be in the position to initiate that dialogue. Thank you very much…
He said he would act on the new email alias idea promptly.