I pulled my car into the hotel garage where the BlogHer conference would take place and found it ironic that two women with infants tucked snuggly in Baby Bjorns were there to greet me … well not greet me exactly but happen across my path. Tourists? or Mommy Bloggers? was my first thought. It’s tourist-heavy San Francisco after all and we’re in the heart of Union Square.
Upon making my way through the revolving door into the hotel, a veritable mommy-palooza was taking place in the lobby — babies seemed to be the latest “must have” fashion accessory. I knew BlogHer had a large contingent of Mommy Bloggers but surely they weren’t in labor and delivery in the meeting rooms, or were they?
My second thought: Now why did I elect to come here again and is it too late to change my mind?
Just minutes later in the speaker training/welcome session I finally got to meet Lori and Mel for the very first time. Was I relieved to find I wasn’t alone in what otherwise felt like an alien land? Like totally.
I know I’m not supposed to focus entirely on my infertility but it’s sort of hard NOT to when during the intros 70 percent of the 45 speakers in attendance introduced themselves leading with the “M” word.
“Okay, Pamela, but don’t fall into the trap of looking for differences…”
This recommendation came from a gay woman — who is also a mother by the way — after I shared my initial observations during the BlogHer reception. Point taken. If she can look beyond the world as straight or gay then I surely I can try to look beyond the fertile and infertile factor.
So this morning as I prepared (somewhat nervously) to walk into a ballroom of 1,000 women I came to realize that it’s not just the mommy factor that had me nervous. I am simply more comfortable walking into a room with 1,000 men. I know how to act, what to say and how to relate. That’s simply the world I’ve been socialized to operate in.
So, my objective in the next two days is to get out of my comfort zone and try to take a fresh look — not just at mommy bloggers but at women in general.
My next post: What happens when I introduce the topic I blog about…and the infertility panel.