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Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos

There’s More Than One Infertility Outcome


Update: As evidence of a sea change in how infertility is portrayed, Yahoo Shine featured on its homepage a story about “the growing women’s movement to de-stigmatize infertility.” It came in the wake of the latest edition of Our Bodies, Ourselves (which&hellip

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A Fresh Start


The new blog name came to me this morning: A Fresh Start After all, isn’t that what we crave when we’ve come through a gut-wrenchingly difficult experience? Coming2Terms went a long way to helping me&hellip

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Yes, Virginia, There Are Lovely ‘Fertiles’ Out There



To: The Fertile Community
From: The Infertile Community
RE: Bridging the Chasm Caused by Infertility

We’re talking about you, and, I confess, it’s not always in a good way. We spend a fair amount of time in the infertility community sharing anecdotes about how little our “fertile” friends, family
and acquaintances “get us.” You give us lots of good material to work with. Just a few days ago, The Wall Street Journal (who would have thought?) had a blog post up, The Swell Season: Haunted by Reminders of Infertility, that provided some examples
of the typical casual dismissals and a few downright, huhs?

For instance someone (clearly fertile) likened infertility to “an allergy that you ‘should just accept’ and move on from…”

Um, I have allergies and I am infertile. So not even in the same ballpark.

And from the woman who had an easy pregnancy, “why shouldn’t I be able to gloat? I was the happiest pregnant woman out there and only gained 15-18 lbs total.”

Is gloating ever a good thing? Heads up, gloating girl, here’s the definition: To feel or express great, often
malicious, pleasure or self-satisfaction.
Now I just hope your son/daughter doesn’t face infertility ’cause I get the feeling you’re not going to handle it very well…

To be fair there were also some comments surmising that infertility would likely be difficult to experience:  “I think that extended infertility and/or the thought that I would never have kids
would be pretty hard to take.” BINGO!

But in this time of brotherly love, I do want to highlight those who DO get us — one couple in particular shared a level of sensitivity and understanding that truly stands apart. They are the
latest recipients of the Coming2Terms Act of Kindness Award. …

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Infertility and Fighting Words


Infertility. Whenever I start wondering if I’ve said all there is to say on the topic and the many ways the experience is misunderstood I find more raw material. Two good reasons for writing came&hellip

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looking back

Looking Back At How I Got Here


15-44. That’s a category I just left in the dust. Normally I don’t pay much attention to age-related categories but this is a biggie. It’s the standard measure of child-bearing age. The U.S. Census bureau&hellip

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What Is It About the “I” Word?


First, let me express my sincere gratitude to all of you who have stopped by to visit. I’d be lying like a rug if I didn’t say I was a tad worried when I learned&hellip

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Unexpected Sanctuary


Now that the jetlag has lifted I’ve been able to replay scenes from my recent trip with some new clarity. Along with the replay came something of an “ah ha” moment. The “ah ha” was&hellip

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Shadow Boxing in the Wake of Failed Fertility Treatment


Today’s post concerns fighting. It’s something I hadn’t thought all that much about until Nancy, a fellow blogger, sent me a package in the mail.  It contained a pair of red boxing gloves. Attached to&hellip

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Revealing the Elephant in the Room


Infertility is like the elephant in the room. We all know it’s there but few are willing to acknowledge it. It strikes our sisters and brothers, our sons and daughters, our cousins, our friends, our colleagues&hellip

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New Study: Men Suffer, Too; Online Support Beneficial for Couples


We all know that men are socialized to be tough guys. For the most part, they are less emotionally volatile than women — especially those shot up with extra hormones. A recently released study, however,&hellip

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