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dark side of IVF

Dark side of IVF revealed 40 years later

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Hello to both new and longtime blog readers. Many of you know I drop by Coming2Terms from time to time to share my latest reporting and advocacy work. It’s been a dozen-plus years since we&hellip

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UnmaskingIVF

Have a Story to Tell? #UnmaskingIVF

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One story will forever mark a turning point for me: Facing Life With Children When It Isn’t By Choice. Since it ran June 10, 2008 that June date now has special significance, too. It’s the&hellip

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Finally Heard: A Silent Sorority Finds Its Voice

Finally Heard: A Silent Sorority Finds Its Voice

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Finally Heard: A Silent Sorority Finds Its Voice is an intentionally short ebook designed in the Kindle Singles model. It incorporates wisdom from ‘Generation IVF’ designed to spark discussion about infertility and the little discussed&hellip

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Infertility insights shared by Coming2Terms readers

Looking for Infertility Insights?

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Hello new readers and visitors… If you’re here for infertility insights you’re in the right place. You’ll find 279 blog posts and 5,042 comments — all shared since Coming2Terms started in February 2007. Take a&hellip

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Healing Salon: Some Unfinished Business

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Welcome back. Pardon me while I tidy up a bit.  I need to get some of the dust and cobwebs off the furniture so I can offer those involved in the Healing Salon a place to sit,&hellip

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Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos

There’s More Than One Infertility Outcome

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Update: As evidence of a sea change in how infertility is portrayed, Yahoo Shine featured on its homepage a story about “the growing women’s movement to de-stigmatize infertility.” It came in the wake of the latest edition of Our Bodies, Ourselves (which&hellip

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A Fresh Start

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The new blog name came to me this morning: A Fresh Start After all, isn’t that what we crave when we’ve come through a gut-wrenchingly difficult experience? Coming2Terms went a long way to helping me&hellip

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New Decade, New Beginnings (updated)

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Updated 1/4/2010 Wanted to share a TV interview scheduled at the end of last year that took place today on the ABC affiliate KXTV. I hope you find that it moves the discussion away from OctoMom&hellip

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Yes, Virginia, There Are Lovely ‘Fertiles’ Out There

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M E M O R A N D U M

To: The Fertile Community
From: The Infertile Community
RE: Bridging the Chasm Caused by Infertility

We’re talking about you, and, I confess, it’s not always in a good way. We spend a fair amount of time in the infertility community sharing anecdotes about how little our “fertile” friends, family
and acquaintances “get us.” You give us lots of good material to work with. Just a few days ago, The Wall Street Journal (who would have thought?) had a blog post up, The Swell Season: Haunted by Reminders of Infertility, that provided some examples
of the typical casual dismissals and a few downright, huhs?

For instance someone (clearly fertile) likened infertility to “an allergy that you ‘should just accept’ and move on from…”

Um, I have allergies and I am infertile. So not even in the same ballpark.

And from the woman who had an easy pregnancy, “why shouldn’t I be able to gloat? I was the happiest pregnant woman out there and only gained 15-18 lbs total.”

Is gloating ever a good thing? Heads up, gloating girl, here’s the definition: To feel or express great, often
malicious, pleasure or self-satisfaction.
Now I just hope your son/daughter doesn’t face infertility ’cause I get the feeling you’re not going to handle it very well…

To be fair there were also some comments surmising that infertility would likely be difficult to experience:  “I think that extended infertility and/or the thought that I would never have kids
would be pretty hard to take.” BINGO!

But in this time of brotherly love, I do want to highlight those who DO get us — one couple in particular shared a level of sensitivity and understanding that truly stands apart. They are the
latest recipients of the Coming2Terms Act of Kindness Award. …

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Our Next Guest: An Infertile Woman

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My, my…how times have changed. Two years ago I could barely summon the courage to acknowledge at a BlogHer holiday meetup that I blogged about infertility. Now, I’m practically wearing a sash. I now chat&hellip

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